Tea Time

cupcakes dessert

As a little girl, one of my favorite times was tea time with my mom. Not much has changed since then. Talking around coffee or tea-especially with cupcakes-is simply quintessential for many girls like me.


We are creatures who long for communication (like girl time) and affirmation (like cupcakes). It may sound crazy, but eating dessert with a friend feels like sharing approval of any conversation that happens.

That’s why it’s so important to watch what we say. It’s so easy to get caught up in the girl time and cupcakes, and forget that God is listening to our conversations. In this life, what was say might never be repeated outside the tea shop (or it may), but it can still damage the reputation of others. Even if what we say is true (and not at all exaggerated), most of the time it’s not necessary.

Scripture tells us to build each other up-and not just because it isn’t nice to say bad things about others. When we are negative, we not only dampen the atmosphere and spoil the cupcakes, but we have the potential to damage relationships that aren’t even at the table.

Suppose someone has done some harm to you, and she’s good friends with the friend sharing tea with you. Do you harm their friendship and share the grudge? Or do you let it go and enjoy the frosting? What’s more, what if a friend of one of your friends had a grudge against you (maybe rightly so)? Would you want her to share what you did over cupcakes?

The choice is always ours in this life. We have the God-given gifts of communication and affirmation. We can honor Him with them or we can dishonor ourselves with them.

Let’s choose to share cupcakes, not gossip.

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians 4:29, NIV)


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